How to Help Your Child Make Friends at School

Whilst learning is the most important reason a child goes to school, friendships are important too.

And since they’ll have to deal with other people all their life, learning how to make friends at a young age is important.

Whether children are shy or outgoing, they all need help making friends.

To help them make good friends, follow these tips on how to help your child make friends at school.



7 Ways to Help Your Child Make Friends at School

Here are 7 ways you can encourage your child to be a good friend.

Follow these tips to help your child make some great friends at school, homeschool co-op, youth club, sports or anywhere else, whatever age and stage they are at.

1. Be a role model for how to treat friends

Show your child that good friendships aren’t about being bossy, but it’s about give and take and compromise.

It’s important that children practice taking turns and even losing graciously.

Playing family board games at home is a great way to model that, with everyone getting a chance to play - and win.

Empathy is an important social skill which can be taught by example as well.

Bringing food to a sick neighbour or visiting an elderly person is a great way to show him or her how to be empathetic towards others.



2. Know your child’s personality

If your child is shy, then you probably can’t expect him to be the leader of the group.

But that doesn’t mean he’s unable to make friends.

You can help bridge the gap by having playdates in your home for your child.

Some kids do well with one or two really close friends, while others love to be part of large groups. 

Knowing how your child does best, and not imposing your own preferences on your child, is going to be key in helping them to be successful at making friends.



3. Be the house all the kids want to go to

This isn’t as difficult as it sounds.

Just always be open to having kids in your home.

You don’t need to provide copious amounts of things to do per se, but just be welcoming of kids in your home and encourage your child to invite friends over.



4. Help your child work through friendship drama

Even the best of friends are not always going to see eye to eye on things.

And that’s okay.

It’s important that you help your child to see where his friend might be coming from and how to navigate problems effectively.



5. Don’t choose your child’s friends

Let your child pick his friends.

Letting your child be friends with children who have different views from you is a great way for him to spread his wings.

Whether it’s a different religion or the family has different political beliefs, that’s okay.

It is important that your child experience different things and make choices for himself.

If a friendship ever becomes a safety concern, then you should step in, but different points of views and beliefs is not a reason for them not to be friends with someone.



6. Talk to your child about bullying

Saying nothing is part of the problem and it’s important that your child knows he can come to you if he sees another child being bullied - and especially if he’s the one experiencing the bullying.

You can speak to the child’s parents or the school administration if you need to, and work together to resolve these problems.




7. It’s okay to not be a part of the in crowd

You want your child to be himself and not push to be a part of a certain group of friends.

Popularity is all relative and it’s not always measured by the number of friends you have.

Quality over quantity is a good way to look at things.
 

For the most part you need to let your child make his own choices when it comes to friendships, but you can give him the tools he needs to be a good friend.

And just talking to your child, knowing who his friends are and knowing his friends’ parents will make things a lot easier for everyone involved.


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